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Freud On Game

“It sounds not only disagreeable but also paradoxical, yet it must nevertheless be said that anyone who is to be really free and happy in love must have surmounted his respect for women”

— Sigmund Freud

Well there ya have it. The expert has spoken*

* I am tweaking Dan’s nose here. It should be fun to see the resident White Knight go off on someone that the left has held dear for so long.


Answer to a friend

I have a friend who had asked/complained to me about how it was okay, even good, for a guy to have sex and yet for women its a bad thing. I had tried to explain the difference as well as the fact that I am not one to approve of male “sluts” any more than the female kind. But I was never able to articulate a very good answer.

Well the much more eloquent Ferdinand Bardamu came to my rescue in his article up at the Spearhead. He writes:

The sexual double standard arises from the reality that getting sex is easy for women but hard for men. The reason studs are respected and sluts are derided is because being a stud requires skill, talent, and practice, while being a slut merely requires a pulse and a lack of impulse control. The unsung flip side of the double standard, however, is that female virgins are cherished whereas male virgins are ridiculed. A man who can’t get laid signals to the world that he is a loser, while a woman who resists spreading her legs for every scumbag who winks at her shows herself to be a sober, selective person. Because a female’s primary goal is getting the highest-quality man available to commit to her, women who cannot or will not stay in a relationship are poor sources of information on men. The male virgin and the female slut are mirror images of each other in terms of attractiveness to and knowledge of the opposite sex.

This is the best summary I have ever seen on the issue and was quite happy to hear that above-mentioned friend found the article quite enlightening.


Walking in 7-inch heels?

The folloing comments made me laugh. They are from the comments on a post by LILGRL over at GirlGame. Epoxytocin is LILGRL’s boyfriend

# Epoxytocin
and grabbing onto his arm as you walk in stilettos … good ways to demonstrate your cute, girly lack of coordination

Fixed that for ya


Fixed that for ya

This coming from someone who buys me 7-inch heels specifically because he knows I can’t walk in them.

# Epoxytocin

I can’t walk in them

You’re not supposed to.


Nice Guys

Sometimes I am amazed that I can learn some things so quickly, and yet others take me forever to pick up. Teach me a new system at work and I have it right away. But there are some things that I haven’t fully learned despite some 15 years of pop quizzes. I still struggle with the whole Nice Guy mentality.

So a history of sorts… 7-8 grade there was this girl Brandy who was quite the looker. On top of that she was one of the good girls. Being the nice guy and having been told that you should be friends first, that is what I did. And we had a lot in common. I was trying to convert from friend to boyfriend when in walk my friend Johnny. Johnny was a female Alpha (read loser) who was truly a troublemaker and on the wrong side of the line dividing society and sociopaths. Well, guess who she went for? Same timeframe, another girl that I liked did the same thing, tho with a different guy.

Age 17, dated a wonderful girl whom I am still friends with today. She was constantly torn between me and two bad boys, one to a lesser extent. I think I lost out on that one due to the sin of being too nice.

Age 18-19. Marissa, good looking girl that I had known for several years. Always close to converting it but always being too respectful of her (possibly read fearful of rejection?) and never did. She would go from guy to guy, she would have me meet them to get my opinion on them. I would give my opinion on them and she promptly dated them anyways. A few weeks or months later she would come crying to me that I was right and she should have listened, which of course she never did. I stopped caring about converting when I came to the realization that anyone who would continuously go against sane advice to be with bad boys was not worth it.

Age 20-26 or so I lived at the church. Very large church where due to my service everyone of any import knew me, and thats saying something in a multi-thousand member church. But living out a life of service didn’t help me either. I was the nice guy and continually saw the girls go instead to the various jackasses and losers. In fairness, not all of them did so. Some of them chose wisely and I don’t begrudge that. There are men that I can look at and state objectively that they are better men than I and losing out to one is no big deal. May the best man win and all that. Now you might think that 6 straight years of observation would be enough to cure me of NiceGuyitis. You’d think. Me? Ha! I am a slow learner in such things. This lasted thru marriage but I am going to purposely avoid the marriage years here as thats a whole ‘nother rant!

Now the above is not unique to me by any stretch of the imagination. We are plagued with Nice Guys in our society, all of them (us) suffering from the same lack of ability to make and maintain a meaningful connection with a woman. How to get past being Mr Nice Guy and create and maintain meaningful relationships with women is what I am looking to explore. Game gives some of those answers as well as others that will lead to the inability to have a meaningful connection, specifically the constant using of women as PUAs do. As mentioned by Arielle, the Bible has plenty of examples to look to. It is also worth noting that most of those men were polygamous and since niceguyitis doesn’t work with a single woman it surely would not have worked with multiple!


What is Game?

It was asked, “What is Game” so I went and found a definition. This comes from the blog In Mala Fide, authored by Ferdinand Bardamu. I am reposting most of this on my blog for ease of reference, however the original post is here

game (\ˈgām\), noun – a set of male behaviors, attitudes, actions, and strategies designed to win the sexual attraction of females. SYNONYMS: seduction. (credit: “Game”*, Obsidian)


  • assertiveness – The ability to project your will on the world. The capability to direct situations to your benefit, insert yourself into the center of social interactions, and act on your own volition. (credit: Dave from Hawaii*, Josh Xiong, Roissy*, Strauss*)
  • calmness – The ability to remain unaffected by the emotional storms of those around you. The will to be a pillar of stability in a world of chaos. (credit: Dave from Hawaii*, Lupo*, Roissy*)
  • confidence – Complete faith in your ability to navigate the world. An unshakable belief in the righteousness of your actions. (credit: Bhetti, Dave from Hawaii*, Lupo*, Roissy*, Strauss*)
  • independence – The willingness to carve your own path through the world, while remaining mindful of those connected to you. (credit: “Bowen Theory – Differentiation of Self”*, Eumaios, OneSTDV, Roissy*)
  • indifference – The ability to avoid being overly invested in individual outcomes. The foresight to keep your eye on the bigger picture. (credit: Anakin Niceguy, Roissy*, Vörek*)
  • presentability – The ability to groom yourself and look good. The possession of style. (credit: Obsidian, Strauss*)
  • sociability – The skills to interact with other human beings. The capability to understand, relate to, and engage those around you. The ability to smile when appropriate and not take things too seriously. (credit: Strauss*, Vörek*)

I find that these very characteristics are desirable by all men regardless of whether a man seeks to bed every girl he can or desires to remain celibate.  When I look at Game, this is what I seek to learn and to make this a part of who I am. Not for women but for myself. One day I wold like to have a woman (or two) come with me on the ride of life and these qualities would serve me well should that happen. If it doesn’t happen then I will still be a stronger man and that is it’s own reward.



Submission is so much less about the person to whom one must submit and so much more about the one who is choosing to submit. To yield personal desires and passions, drives and self-will to the authority and pervue of another requires insane amounts of trust.

Heidi wrote this over at Arielle’s and I thought it was interesting considering the conversation I had with my mother just today. She was telling me how the problems with relationships is that men don’t love like they are supposed to, after all men were commanded to love their wives.  I brought up the fact that right before that women were told to submit to their husbands. Her response? No one is going to do that anymore so it is irrelevant.

In her mind there is no disconnect between severing the female from all responsibility and yet still expecting all of the benefits. And in the end it is always the man’s fault somehow.