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Internet Dating

Its amazing how predatory companies are towards the male desire for companionship. When one looks at any site that doesn’t require money to set up a profile you are about 50 times more likely to see a spam account than the account of a real woman. Simply put, this woman is not on yahoo looking for dates

Or alternatively, you will get a foreigner, often from Russia. Fortunately the Russians are easy to spot by their grammar, such as

I young, beautiful, self-confident, in opinion the girl. I love tenderness calmness, romanticism!
I hope to meet the fair, decent, benevolent, strong person, for the serious attitude. Loving children, equality to an opposite floor. It would be desirable to find the best the man to divide the incorporated dreams of desire and the safe partner in our life.

Problem with these is the ridiculously good looking pic attached to the profile probably IS that girl, but she is in another country and you’d have to pay to bring her over here.

There are other sites. Someone once mentioned Backpage, so I looked it up and all I can say is, wow! That’s like prostitution central! I didn’t know there was a site to advertise such “services!” So all that is left is Craigslist, but this is mostly spam. It doesn’t matter what you put on there you get spam. Put an item up for sale and you get spam. Put up a resume and you get insurance companies trying to recruit you because of your “unique” skills that will just ensure your success. Put up a personal ad and get porn and dating sites. Once I even got a pic of a buxom, Hooters shirt wearing chick who was holding up a hand written piece of paper with the days date on it.
I was suspicious because the file name was the days date. Sure enough I got a response the next day with that days date. I have to hand it to them, it was pretty clever and I bet it took in a lot of guys.

But occasionally you get a real woman on there. They are almost always single parents. Of course its a bit hypocritical of me, a single parent, not wanting someone else who has kids but I have already had to go thru the whole idea of raising someone else’s child and am grateful that I don’t have to and that I was able to realize that doing so would make me rather unhappy.*

The other commonality is that their posts usually begin with saying they are a BBW, but I don’t think that these women know what that means as evidenced by their posted pictures. BBW means Big BEAUTIFUL Woman. Two out of three just doesn’t cut it! Some of them truly are beautiful, most of them are just big. I think if I ever put up another personal ad I am going to list the max diameter that I can wrap my arms around because I really don’t think that a woman should ever be bigger than that. Is it really too much to expect women, who are usually shorter than men to weigh less than they do? Seriously, I don’t weigh 200 pounds and if I am 4-5 inches taller… It’d be like dating a butterball turkey, but at least with the butterball you get both dinner AND leftovers. How about not drinking a half bottle of wine with your double serving of lasagna. Or stepping AWAY from the double whopper with cheese, king size fry and diet coke. (I used to work at BK, that actually happens a lot!)

And I see that this is devolving into a rant and that I seem to have forgotten the opening of this whole post. Spammers and scammers and legitimate companies all play upon the strong male desire to find companionship (some would say for reproducing) and finding your way past that maze is difficult. And its not just teh internets of course. Sex is used to sell basically everything but Bibles nowadays, tho I am sure that if Bibles were advertised on TV it wouldn’t take long to sex up those ads too.

*I thought I would expand a bit upon that. Raising the children of a widow is something that I could do as it is a totally different set of circumstances and issues as well as a Biblical ideal if not a commandment. A big part of the raising someone else’s kids is that, statistically, the woman broke up the family and any remarriages have an even higher rate of divorce than the first which is currently at 50%. I don’t want to risk losing my children to a woman who has already proven that she can and will break up the family.

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10 Responses to “Internet Dating”


  1. May 6, 2010 at 6:44 AM

    Or stepping AWAY from the double whopper with cheese, king size fry and diet coke…

    STFU. I LIKE the tast of diet Coke.

    Like you, I noticed almost immediately that there were no rreal women on those sites. Oddly enough, many of the pay sites are worse. The women there are fictional just to draw male paying members. No real dates result.

    The ones are Craig’s list all look like pros.

  2. May 6, 2010 at 1:57 PM

    There are real women on the Internet (breaking Internet Axiom #1), but all of the standard rules apply; best thing to do is get a few flattering, tasteful photos up on your profile, then write your profile to fit. Rinse and repeat. If they’re interested, they’ll make the approach. They’re already there, the profile is visible, so the jig is up.

    Some sites are better than others… I’d stick to the Christian-oriented ones if I were you, as it immediately cuts the potential crap by half or more.

    “BBW means Big BEAUTIFUL Woman.”

    Yuh-huh, and the first tends to whittle down the second. If I find her irresistible, it shouldn’t be due to the gravitational pull exerted upon my person.

  3. May 6, 2010 at 4:05 PM

    I met my husband on conservativematch.com, it has since shut down. It was a good site though. I was sad to see it go as I was making general online friends on there too. Everyone seemed normal and real.

  4. May 7, 2010 at 4:36 AM

    Yeah, it’s no wonder our culture is so obsessed with sex. With the way the male brain works, and the constant (all day, every day) influx of sexual imagery.

    I can’t really offer much except to say keep on keeping your head straight. If possible, you might look into participating in activities that you enjoy that do not have almost exclusively male participation. That way, you’re doing something you like and there’s still the possibility you could meet someone that way.

  5. 5 Dan
    May 7, 2010 at 9:39 AM

    Very funny post. Good reading. I am exposed to this on Facebook friends request i.e. “I sure I would remember have never been able to forget you if I ever knew you”.

  6. 6 Superpickle
    May 7, 2010 at 3:31 PM

    :(….. I love craigslist. And the Hooters photo was pretty good……..

  7. May 7, 2010 at 5:05 PM

    If I find her irresistible, it shouldn’t be due to the gravitational pull exerted upon my person.

    Feral, thats the funniest comment I have seen in a long time.

    Laura, your man finding you on that site is one huge success story for the web. Too bad its gone now.

    Pickle, As a girl its a lot easier for you to find what you are looking for on CL. And yes, the hooters picture is rather nice. (o=

  8. June 12, 2010 at 2:40 PM

    Good laugh on how some are pretending. Sometimes their own acts betray their true intensions. Hilarious post!

  9. April 21, 2013 at 9:27 PM

    It’s very straightforward to find out any topic on web as compared to textbooks, as I found this piece of writing at this site.


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