Quoth the Spearhead

From the Spearhead

However, what kind of social dominance can have guys that are brainwashed since children to believe that women like chumps?

The male protagonist does good stuff out of the kindness of his heart, but the real Nice Guys ™ just do it because they are begging for vag. And women know it, and are repulsed by their lack of testicular fortitude.

I would say that “begging for vag” might be a bit harsh, but the gist is much the same. I think that the Nice Guy ™ is just looking to be loved. Vag may be a part of it but the need isn’t necessarily so crass. However these two quotes go along well with my prior posts. Whether from parents or the culture at large boys take in the message that women like chumps (A.K.A. Nice Guys ™) and so fashion their lives to be one. After all, men have an innate need for companionship and because of that much of what we do is at least partially an attempt to fill that need.

Its also another example of men thinking that women look for the same things in a partner that we do. Men want someone pleasant, laid back, non-confrontational, loyal and reliable (among others of course) so we try to be those things despite how detrimental it is to us because we truly believe that those qualities are desirable.

The Waitress and the …

My boy just (sorta) hit on the waitress. He was telling her about planets and then said “But there is one thats even hotter, Your anus (Uranus) is the hottest”

Gluten-Free Peanut Butter Cookies

For those on a gluten-free diet, or just wanting a simple cookie to make with your kid

1 cup peanut butter
1 cup sugar
1 egg

Mix well and place on lightly greased cookies sheet. Cook for 10-12 minutes at 350 degrees.

Thats it. Gotta love simple cookie recipes

Feel Good vs Mental Hangup

Why do we have so many hang ups that keep us from doing things that feel good? I mean, if I can engage is some behavior that makes me feel good, and it doesn’t harm anyone, whats up with the hangups? Should there be anything between me and doing something that gives me an all day high? So why so many mental hangups with me conquering the flesh? Some would even say that I would be a better person if I were to do it daily and I have to say that I agree. I’d be more successful in life, more confident and have ever greater success with the opposite sex.

Oh, this is about exercise. Just what were you thinking?!?

Walking in 7-inch heels?

The folloing comments made me laugh. They are from the comments on a post by LILGRL over at GirlGame. Epoxytocin is LILGRL’s boyfriend

# Epoxytocin
and grabbing onto his arm as you walk in stilettos … good ways to demonstrate your cute, girly lack of coordination

Fixed that for ya

# LILGRL

Fixed that for ya

This coming from someone who buys me 7-inch heels specifically because he knows I can’t walk in them.

# Epoxytocin

I can’t walk in them

You’re not supposed to.

Diversions: Muppet Test

I must say that this is perhaps the most accurate internet test I have ever seen! It will peg which muppet you are in just 4 questions or less.

Black Friday Ads

Some of you won’t care at all, but for those that do, the Black Friday ads are being announced. You might find yourself with a really great deal on something that will make it worth getting up and seeing the mass of humanity that is certainly entertaining to watch. In fact, the peculiarity of shoppers behavior is interesting enough that it can make the whole experience for you. But if you do go, go EARLY. Be in line before the store opens (at least one hour) so that you can get out quickly. Otherwise the stuff is gone and you have the huge lines. Also, small and/or pregnant people should be extra careful as humanity in all its glory will be on display.

Check out the sites below or google “Black Friday Ads“

http://bfads.net/

http://www.black-friday.net/

http://blackfriday.gottadeal.com/

Misandry

There’s nothing quite like telling your man that he is unwanted. Must make women feel better about themselves to tear down others, else they wouldn’t do it so often. But aren’t we starting this child out a tad young?

Love: A Miscommunication

Love. I noticed several years ago that its a difficult concept because it is not used to define the same thing in men as in women. Its kinda like a Christian and a Mormon having a discussion. They both have very different definitions of the words they use and so mean different things by them, but they think they are having a discussion and so each is able to go on blissfully unaware that the other did not understand them. In a similar fashion both men and women refer to love, but they are talking past each other because their definition of the word is not the same.

I came across the following (which prompted this post as someone else was pointing out something close to my own conclusions) from the comments on The Spearhead made by Globalman at 10:24pm

Love? Women are not capable of it. Period. No need for any more discussion on that point.

Relationships? They are actually not possible between a man and a woman. ‘Relationships’ are a scam introduced to brainwash men into providing for women. And I used to be called ‘Mr. Relationships’ by my friends. LOL! I have studied and worked on ‘relationships’ for 32 years. My conclusion is that a reasonably intelligent man can not actually have a relationship with a woman as men understand relationships. Women don’t want men, they want what men provide, whereas men actually really want a relationship with a woman as we have been programmed to want such. … Us poor ‘beta providers’ believed our mums that woman want relationships. It’s all a lie.

Globalman breaks it into two categories and perhaps he is correct to do so but I have not put much thought into that. What I have noticed, however, is that when we talk of love we use a very different term. Women fall into, and out of, love very quickly and often. Men take longer to fall in love and when they do they graft that person into their being and it is not easy to fall out of love as it is akin to tearing apart the very fiber of yourself. Now if women loved as men it would not be possible for them to fall in and out of love. It would be too damaging to their selves(psyches.) It is possible that this characteristic was placed by G-d (or evolution if you prefer) as women in primitive societies had less control over who they were with as well as a high mortality rate for men could see them with a new partner on a somewhat frequent basis. Whatever the reason for the difference, it would be nice to have a different word for the two feelings, or that our young men would be taught of this, and other differences, so that we don’t have to learn it the hard way, or learn it from some who would push them towards an immoral path.

Globalman also denigrates women’s desire for relationships. I think if we look at the above then it makes a bit more sense that what we think a relationship is differs between the sexes. A man wants a relationship for companionship, sex, a mother to his children and to ensure that the children are indeed his. A woman wants a relationship for someone to provide materially for her and her children (tho not necessarily his children.) It does seem that GM is correct when he states that women want what men provide, and not men themselves. Once they manage to get a guy (marriage) they spend the rest of their lives belittling him, behind his back, to his face as well as in public. Women also initiate divorce in record numbers, with an increase of 600% over the last few decades and among certain groups of women (college educated) in 90% of the divorces. I hardly think it coincidental that at the same time as that increase came favorable laws to enable women to keep the kids AND the now despised man’s money. Add in pop-cultures message of how women need a man like a fish needs a bicycle and GM’s claim of “lie” has far too much truth in it.

Pleasant Thoughts Friday

Came across the new Kellie Pickler video for her song Didn’t You Know How Much I Loved You If country music isn’t your thing, just watch it on mute. Beautiful scenery in more ways than one!

Motorcycles: The Ural Patrol

Since motorcycles have been brought up and there have been a few posts up at the Spear-Head I have been thinking again upon one that I want (for the record I do not own a motorcycle at this time)

The Patrol by Ural is essentially a WWII Russian military design and it has been in constant production since then. There have been some upgrades but it is not exactly a high-tech machine. The Patrol has the old styling with a detachable sidecar that has its own powered wheel which makes it a two wheel drive motorcycle which is capable of going where other sidecars cannot. Check out this guys photos of the 4 corners area. Of course many people take motorcycles to Moab, but sidcars don’t typically do too well there, so check out this video of a Ural tackling the snow. Can’t do that on a typical motorcycle. It is also renowned for its ease of maintenance which can often be repaired by its owner.

Of course, there are no claims to it being a powerhouse or speed demon. And some will certainly not like its retro look. But I say ‘F em, I want one. This is something that would be fun for a weekend getaway type bike or for adventure-biking which is something I am interested in as well.

Nice Guys

Sometimes I am amazed that I can learn some things so quickly, and yet others take me forever to pick up. Teach me a new system at work and I have it right away. But there are some things that I haven’t fully learned despite some 15 years of pop quizzes. I still struggle with the whole Nice Guy mentality.

So a history of sorts… 7-8 grade there was this girl Brandy who was quite the looker. On top of that she was one of the good girls. Being the nice guy and having been told that you should be friends first, that is what I did. And we had a lot in common. I was trying to convert from friend to boyfriend when in walk my friend Johnny. Johnny was a female Alpha (read loser) who was truly a troublemaker and on the wrong side of the line dividing society and sociopaths. Well, guess who she went for? Same timeframe, another girl that I liked did the same thing, tho with a different guy.

Age 17, dated a wonderful girl whom I am still friends with today. She was constantly torn between me and two bad boys, one to a lesser extent. I think I lost out on that one due to the sin of being too nice.

Age 18-19. Marissa, good looking girl that I had known for several years. Always close to converting it but always being too respectful of her (possibly read fearful of rejection?) and never did. She would go from guy to guy, she would have me meet them to get my opinion on them. I would give my opinion on them and she promptly dated them anyways. A few weeks or months later she would come crying to me that I was right and she should have listened, which of course she never did. I stopped caring about converting when I came to the realization that anyone who would continuously go against sane advice to be with bad boys was not worth it.

Age 20-26 or so I lived at the church. Very large church where due to my service everyone of any import knew me, and thats saying something in a multi-thousand member church. But living out a life of service didn’t help me either. I was the nice guy and continually saw the girls go instead to the various jackasses and losers. In fairness, not all of them did so. Some of them chose wisely and I don’t begrudge that. There are men that I can look at and state objectively that they are better men than I and losing out to one is no big deal. May the best man win and all that. Now you might think that 6 straight years of observation would be enough to cure me of NiceGuyitis. You’d think. Me? Ha! I am a slow learner in such things. This lasted thru marriage but I am going to purposely avoid the marriage years here as thats a whole ‘nother rant!

Now the above is not unique to me by any stretch of the imagination. We are plagued with Nice Guys in our society, all of them (us) suffering from the same lack of ability to make and maintain a meaningful connection with a woman. How to get past being Mr Nice Guy and create and maintain meaningful relationships with women is what I am looking to explore. Game gives some of those answers as well as others that will lead to the inability to have a meaningful connection, specifically the constant using of women as PUAs do. As mentioned by Arielle, the Bible has plenty of examples to look to. It is also worth noting that most of those men were polygamous and since niceguyitis doesn’t work with a single woman it surely would not have worked with multiple!

What is Game?

It was asked, “What is Game” so I went and found a definition. This comes from the blog In Mala Fide, authored by Ferdinand Bardamu. I am reposting most of this on my blog for ease of reference, however the original post is here

game (\ˈgām\), noun – a set of male behaviors, attitudes, actions, and strategies designed to win the sexual attraction of females. SYNONYMS: seduction. (credit: “Game”*, Obsidian)

Principles

• assertiveness – The ability to project your will on the world. The capability to direct situations to your benefit, insert yourself into the center of social interactions, and act on your own volition. (credit: Dave from Hawaii*, Josh Xiong, Roissy*, Strauss*)
• calmness – The ability to remain unaffected by the emotional storms of those around you. The will to be a pillar of stability in a world of chaos. (credit: Dave from Hawaii*, Lupo*, Roissy*)
• confidence – Complete faith in your ability to navigate the world. An unshakable belief in the righteousness of your actions. (credit: Bhetti, Dave from Hawaii*, Lupo*, Roissy*, Strauss*)
• independence – The willingness to carve your own path through the world, while remaining mindful of those connected to you. (credit: “Bowen Theory – Differentiation of Self”*, Eumaios, OneSTDV, Roissy*)
• indifference – The ability to avoid being overly invested in individual outcomes. The foresight to keep your eye on the bigger picture. (credit: Anakin Niceguy, Roissy*, Vörek*)
• presentability – The ability to groom yourself and look good. The possession of style. (credit: Obsidian, Strauss*)
• sociability – The skills to interact with other human beings. The capability to understand, relate to, and engage those around you. The ability to smile when appropriate and not take things too seriously. (credit: Strauss*, Vörek*)

I find that these very characteristics are desirable by all men regardless of whether a man seeks to bed every girl he can or desires to remain celibate.  When I look at Game, this is what I seek to learn and to make this a part of who I am. Not for women but for myself. One day I wold like to have a woman (or two) come with me on the ride of life and these qualities would serve me well should that happen. If it doesn’t happen then I will still be a stronger man and that is it’s own reward.

Best Personal Ad Ever!

From Anoukange’s blog

If you were my man I would stand before you as an offer.  I would work to know you and dream your dreams with you.  I would vacuum in lace, I would time release my secrets and my desires to extend the ride of intrigue, I would be elegant on your arm and never question you in public, I would whisper dirty deeds into your ear and leave your thoughts to wander, I would keep my wrists skinny through out the years so that you may always pin them down with one hand only, I would give you the pillow you preferred, I will keep my skin firm, my muscles toned, my mind flexible, I would go deep, I would go down, I would cook your favorite foods, I would water your roots and iron your shirts, I would carry myself with class, I would fill your cupboard with Jack, I would kiss you with my hands on your face, I would sneak my foot up your leg under the table at dinner, I would steal glimpses of you in movie theaters and memorize your profile, I would keep my hair long and lush so you could pull it, I would absorb your stress and melt it, I would desire your brain, your ways and your pauses, I would trim your hair with precision, I would never stand in the way of your spirit, I would listen to your stories, I would digest you in inches, I would allow you your space and freedom, I would love you, hold you, fuck you, know you, believe in you, travel with you, stay in with you, drink with you, sleep beside you and live beside you.

A woman can either be a great blessing or a tremendous curse (Ecc 7:26) Sounds like this girl is the former and would make someone a tremendous catch.

Submission

Submission is so much less about the person to whom one must submit and so much more about the one who is choosing to submit. To yield personal desires and passions, drives and self-will to the authority and pervue of another requires insane amounts of trust.

Heidi wrote this over at Arielle’s and I thought it was interesting considering the conversation I had with my mother just today. She was telling me how the problems with relationships is that men don’t love like they are supposed to, after all men were commanded to love their wives.  I brought up the fact that right before that women were told to submit to their husbands. Her response? No one is going to do that anymore so it is irrelevant.

In her mind there is no disconnect between severing the female from all responsibility and yet still expecting all of the benefits. And in the end it is always the man’s fault somehow.

Gout Cure?

Gout

For those of you who have it or know someone who does, you know just how painful it is. Gout is caused by a buildup of uric acid in the body and that acid crystallizes in the joints acting much like little daggers and feeling the same way. There are medicines to”treat” gout but they all have some pretty horrendous side affects, one such drug can cause your skin to slough off, or in my words, turn you into a zombie! So treating with drugs is rather risky in my mind. Some people find relief from the standard homeopathic things like cherries or cherry juice, but I found exactly zero relief from such things.

The things that cause gout to flare up for me are not the usual dietary things. For instance, the dietary guidelines talk about avoiding organ meats and herring as well as not eating too much meat in general. I fail on the third one (can’t eat wheat so I am rather limited) but the first two aren’t even in my diet (and I don’t eat hot dogs or bologna so I don’t get it there either.)  For me, its drinking too much soda. But its not just that. If I switch from soda and go to my standby of Gatorade I get the same reaction, tho I do drink a lot more gatorade than I do of soda. Now nothing on the internet refers to such a connection and I have been assured by my doctor that there is no chemical reason for that as the sugar in those do not translate to uric acid. I believe my doctor but there has been an undeniable connection there for me.

So what does work? I found a so-called two-hour cure. The formula is really quite esoteric and outrageously expensive. Seriously! You have to drive to the nearest walmart to pick up a box of baking soda** (Cost: Approx. 50 cents)  and then drive all the way home and mix 1/4 teaspoon with 8 ounces of water and drink that several times per day, never to exceed 4 tsps a day. Guess what? It works! Starts to take the pain and swelling away within 90 minutes for me. But why does that work? I did some searching and as near as I can tell there is no chemical reaction between backing soda and uric acid so it had to be elsewhere.

PH Level

Water has a pH of 7 but the body must maintain the blood’s pH level in a very strict range of 7.35-7.45. Its an incredibly small range with which to work and in order to keep this particular range it will do two things. 1) Store excess acid in body tissue 2) Leech calcium from the bones to bring up the pH. Now the standard western diet is already acidic but when you add in soda it becomes much worse. The linked site shows that Coke has a pH of 2.63 and Gatorade a pH of 2.95. So by drinking these in excess I have been bringing my pH level down. Likely down far enough to bring on a state of acidosis. I can’t prove that perhaps but it is likely seeing as my consumption of soda can be 3-6 cans a day and as I make my own Gatorade using the mix there is no telling just how much of that I drink. Of course, for some most people that isn’t a problem as their body is in proper working condition, but unfortunately I am apparently not one of them.

What I found is that baking soda has a PH of 8.3, whereas water has a neutral PH of 7. So by drinking in this 8.3 PH water mixture I am bringing up my bodies’ pH level from a state of acidosis to one approaching normal. This allows my body to take the acid and put it back in the bloodstream to be processed by the kidneys as it should be. But to be honest, I found the adding of baking soda to be tedious and tho it doesn’t taste bad at all it does make the water “slick” which is rather different. Plus I had to monitor my intake and keep out a separate glass  and it was kinda like medicine so I used it in that manner which means I only took it when I hurt enough to take something for the pain. There had to be something better right?

Well, I found that something better it in the form of Alkaline Water. There are numerous companies*** out there that make drops to add to your water and there is even one company that bottles alkaline water. The latter seems like it might be more expensive in the long run so I chose some drops from Alkazone which were the only ones I could buy locally. The vitamin shop sells them for $21 and and they have proven to be incredibly simplistic and therefore get used with just about every glass of water that I drink throughout the day.

So for anyone who has gout or knows someone with gout, I strongly urge you to try the baking soda remedy** above and see if it works for you.  If it helps to relieve your gout you may want to consider an easier option in bottled water or drops to add to your water like I use.

* FCC disclaimer: I am not getting free product nor pay for this review. However, I AM open to money or free product if anyone wants to provide it! (o=

** Baking Soda contains a fair amount of salt. Please moderate salt intake while using it or how that fits into a restricted salt intake.

***Another company whose product I would like to try is from ph-ion.com With them there are two different bottles where the minerals come separately from the alkaline booster whereas Alkazone puts them in the same bottle. Is there a difference? Dunno. However if you are interested in getting pH strips, ph-ion.com looks to have the best on the market.

Public Service: Eye Exam

Please click on the pictures below to review them and see if you are able to spot any differences.

Double Minded Man… Huh?

Welcome all to my new blog. Sorry for the switch-up but I felt I needed a place where I could be freer to express myself and that was no longer a possibility on the old one.
So what’s with the name? It comes from the first chapter of the book of James, which happens to be my favorite.

James 1:2-8 My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing [this], that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have [her] perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing. If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all [men] liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. A double minded man [is] unstable in all his ways.

So its not exactly the most flattering name, but I think its a rather honest one. For while the spirit desires after the kingdom of G-d, the flesh wars mightily against the spirit as it seeks after the corruption of the flesh. Where these two connect is where you find, I think, a great deal of the population, with one foot on a higher plane but enjoying dipping the toes of the other foot in the world too much to change it. We live in a time when we are surrounded by carnal desire and temptation. It’s not possible to go a single day without carnal desires being paraded before us, be it cars and jewelry or food or half naked women. And at the same time its possible to go weeks without encountering someone or something to build up the spirit and I think this contributes greatly to the existence of the double minded man.

So what will this blog be about?
Well, a variety of subjects. I have been more and more convinced of the truth of “Game” and will be publishing links and my thoughts on what those others write. Now to clarify, I am not interested in the PUA (Pick Up Artist) aspect as it quite simply doesn’t square with my religion. I am more interested in how it could be applied to an LTR/Marriage.

MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) is also something I have been looking at. Its, more or less, a view that Feminists have f’ed up this world enough that men should let them have their (rotten) cake as we don’t want it. Men can assert their power by refusing to play by the prevalent rules and mostly doing away with women in their lives. I don’t totally agree with this approach as I think the world needs to be engaged by upright men in order to bring about a change, but think that it is one of several ways to address this world.

This blog will likely also address Men’s Right’s issues but I don’t intend to make it all an MRA type blog. Much like the previous I will address whatever catches my eye and that includes politics, science, and religion as well as (unfortunately for you) economics with a few lighter things thrown in from time to time.